The "People Power" Women Superbook:
Book 3. Beauty Guide, Beauty Jobs - Business Guide
(Outer - Inner Beauty, Modesty, Cosmetic Surgery, Skincare, Acne, Hair Loss, Beauty Industry, Health Spas)
Table of Contents
Beauty Introduction Volume 1. Beauty Basics Chapter 1. Outer Look & Inner BeautyOuter Look & Inner Beauty 1-2
A Girl's Appearance/ The Vanity Business
The Fine Line Between Dressing For Vanity & Dressing For Self-Respect
Physical Beauty 1-3
Chapter 2. The Essence of BeautyBeauty in the Bible
The Mechanics of Beauty
True Beauty is Love of Life
Chapter 3. Beauty Products Sell LiesFeminine Beauty Info
Beauty is not Defined by Salespeople
Body Image Info
Body Image Websites
Fat Acceptance/ Fat People Activism/ Size Acceptance
The Curse of Beauty
Nature's Revenge on Beautiful, Young Women
Fashion: The Crown Jewel of Excess Gone Mad
Chapter 4. True Beauty is Not CosmeticsA Straight Guy Talks About Feminine Beauty
My Take on the Lie of Feminine Beauty 1-2
Why Men of Substance Can't Stand Pop Culture Girls
Too Much Make-up
Chapter 5. We Color Our Hair While Poor Children StarveMy Personal Cause: Food not Hair Color
Food not Hair Color: Solve World Hunger 1-3
Chapter 6. I Like 'em Real & NaturalSelf-Exploitation: Sleaze vs. Wholesome Beauty
Betty Page: Natural Beauty, Every Man's Dream
Modesty: A Lost Virtue?
Daddy's Girl
Chapter 7. Grooming & BeautyGrooming, The Look, Fashion Sense
Beauty Websites
Beauty Tip Websites
British Beauty Websites
Anti-Beauty Websites
Beauty Rating Websites
Beauty One-Liners
Facial Exercises for Beauty
Chapter 8. Sweat & Body OdorExcessive Sweating/ Hyperhidrosis
Sweaty Feet/ Smelly Feet/ Podobromhidrosis
Body Odor Info
Body Odor Websites
Holistic Body Odor Cure Websites
Chapter 9. Hair Care InfoHealthy Hair Info
Hair Websites
African Hair/ Black Hair
Hair Products For Sale
Hair Removal Info/ Hair Electrolysis
Hair Extensions For Sale
Wigs For Free & Sale
Chapter 10. Hair ProblemsDandruff/ Seborrheic Dermatitis/ Seborrhea
Hair Loss Info
Holistic Hair Loss Info
Hair Replacement Info
Alopecia Areata Info
Canadian Alopecia Areata Info
Hair Loss Websites/ Baldness Websites
Women's Hair Loss Websites
Male Pattern Baldness/ Androgenetic Alopecia
Excessive Hair Medical Condition/ Hirsutism
Greying of Hair at a Young Age
Head Lice Info
Headlice Websites/ Head Lice Websites
Chapter 11. Men's Grooming BasicsMetrosexual Man/ Fashionable Pretty Boy
Men's Grooming Info
Men's Cosmetic Surgery
Surgical Leg Lengthening Info
Grooming Websites
Tie a Tie Websites
Men's Spas
Get a Tan
Chapter 12. Fingernail Health & BeautyNail Info
Nails, Manicure, Pedicure
Nail Salon Safety
Nail Websites
Nail Color/ Artificial Nails/ Manicure/ Pedicure
Nail Disease Websites/ Nail Disorder Websites
Nail Fungus Infection Info
Ingrown Nails Info
Onychomycosis Info
Chapter 13. Bad Breath is Bad for a Social LifeBad Breath/ Halitosis
Holistic Bad Breath Ideas
Bad Breath Websites
Chaper 14. Beauty Contest BasicsBeauty Contests, Beauty Pageants
Bikini Contests/ Lingerie Contests
Volume 2. Skincare/ Skin Health Chapter 1. Skin Problems/ DermatologySkin Basics 1-2
Skin Disorders/ Dermatology
Dry Skin Info
Dermatitis Info
Eczema/ Skin Inflammation/ Atopic Dermatitis
Eczema Websites
Holistic Eczema Treatments
Allergic Contact Dermatitis Info
Lighten Your Skin
Holistic Skin Remedies
Skin Websites
Skin Resources
Skin Problem Websites/ Skin Disease Websites/ Skin Disorder Websites
Dermatology Websites
Chapter 2. Skin Conditions InfoBoils/ Furuncles/ Carbuncles/ Folliculitis
Burn Info
Cryosurgery in General For Wart & Heel Spur Removal
Hives/ Urticaria/ Nettle Rashes
Impetigo Info
Liver Spots/ Age Spots/ Solar Lentigo/ Senile Lentigo
Morgellons Disease Info
Psoriasis Info
Rosacea Info
Sarcoidosis Info
Shingles/ Varicella-Zoster Virus (VZV)
Vitiligo Info/ Leucoderma Info
Wart Removal Info
Chapter 3. Fungal Infections InfoRingworm/ Tinea Corporis/ Dermatophytid
Athlete's Foot/ Tinea Pedis
Jock Itch/ Tinea Cruris/ Groin Dermatophytosis
Fungal Infection Websites
Chapter 4. Canadian Skin InfoCanadian Neurofibromatosis Info
Canadian Psoriasis Info
Canadian Scleroderma Info
Canadian Skin Info
Chapter 5. Acne: The Biggest Skin ScourgeAcne Info
Acne Websites
Chapter 6. Skincare BasicsSkincare Info
Skincare Websites
Skincare Products in General
Skincare Products For Sale
Exfoliation/ Get Rid of Old Skin
A Facial Mask Info
Wrinkles & Aging Skin
Wrinkle Cream For Sale
Chapter 7. Scar BasicsScars Info
Keloid Scar/ Hypertrophic Scar
Stretchmarks Removal
Chapter 8. Water Therapy BasicsHydrotherapy/ Balneotherapy/ Water Therapy
Hydrotherapy/ Water Healing Websites
Herbal Bath/ Herbal Soap
Make a Mud Mask
Make a Mud Bath
Mineral Bath/ Mud Bath Info
Epsom Salt/ Magnesium Sulfate
Random Water Healing Websites
Volume 3. Cosmetic Surgery Basics Chapter 1. Cosmetic Surgery InfoCosmetic Surgery Info
Cosmetic Surgery Risks
Body Dysmorphic Disorder Info/ BDD
Liposuction/ Lipoplasty
Tummy Tuck/ Abdominoplasty
Chapter 2. Boob Job InfoBreast Augmentation Info
Breast Implants Info
Natural Breast Enhancement/ Pills For Sale
Men's Boob Jobs: Chest Implants and Calf Implants
Chapter 3. Breast Reduction InfoBreast Reduction/ Reduction Mammolasty
Breast Reduction Pills/ No Surgery
Gynecomastia/ Breasts in Men
Male Breast Reduction Info
Chapter 4. Enhancing The Facial LookAsian Blepharoplasty
Botox Treatments
Neck Lift
Facial Implant/ Chin Implant Info
Cosmetic Eyelid Surgery/ Blepharoplasty
Facelift Surgery/ Rhytidectomy
Forehead Lift Info
Nose Job/ Rhinoplasty
Otoplasty/ Ear Cosmetic Surgery
Chapter 5. Skin-Refinishing Techniques/ Smoother Facial SkinGet Rid of Acne Scars
Chemical Peel/ Chemexfoliation/ Derma-Peeling/ Skin Resurfacing
Dermabrasion/ Surgical Skin Planing/ Dermaplaning
Laser Skin Resurfacing Info
Stretch Marks Treatments
Chapter 6. Cosmetic Surgery ResourcesMajor Cosmetic Surgery Websites
Cosmetic Surgery Websites
Cosmetic Surgery Resources
Medical Spas/ Medi-Spas/ Spas Which Offer Cosmetic Surgery
Loans For Cosmetic & Plastic Surgery
Spa Business For Doctors
Chapter 7. Canadian Cosmetic Surgery BasicsCanadian Cosmetic Surgery Info
Canadian Cosmetic Surgery Spas
Chapter 8. Cosmetic Surgery WorldAustralia Cosmetic Surgery
British Cosmetic Surgery
Mexico Cosmetic Surgery
Worldwide Cosmetic Surgery
Chapter 9. Better Teeth InfoCosmetic Dentistry/ Reconstructive Dentistry
Volume 4. The Beauty Business Chapter 1. Beauty Business BasicsBarber/ Beautician/ Cosmetology
Beauty School Websites
Beauty Business Websites
Beauty Salon Business Websites
Chapter 2. Beauty Jobs-Business IdeasSelling Cosmetics as a Job or Business
Cosmetics Business Websites
Cosmetics Websites
Make-up Artist Career/ Makeup Artist Jobs
Manicurist/ Pedicurist/ Nail Technician/ Nail Care Artist
Perfumer Career
Permanent Cosmetic Tattoo Technicians
Skincare Business/ Skincare Jobs
Spa Business Info
Chapter 3. Cosmetology BasicsCosmetology/ Beauty Salon Licensing Certification Offices
Cosmetology Board Websites
Cosmetology Exam Websites
Cosmetology Organization Websites
Cosmetology Money for School
Chapter 4. Beauty School BasicsBeauty Schools Lists/ Lists of Cosmetology Schools
Specific Beauty School Websites
Chapter 5. Modeling & FashionFashion Schools
Model Scam Websites
Modeling Agencies Info
Model Websites/ Modeling Websites
Fashion Job Websites
Modeling Career Websites
Child Model/ Preteen Models
Chapter 6. Clothing MakingClothing Sales/ Apparel Career
Clothing Maker/ Fashion Design Career
Textiles Career/ Fabrics Jobs/ Sewing Jobs/ Seamstress/ Tailor
Costume Design Career
Milliner/ Hat Maker Career
Volume 5. Resorts & Spas Basics Chapter 1. ResortsResort Basics
Resort Database Websites
Resort Chains
Resort Websites
Specific Resorts
Resorts in the United States by State
Resorts in the World, General
Resorts in the World, Specific
Chapter 2. Health Resorts/ SpasSpas in General
Spa List Websites
Spa Magazines
Day Spa Websites
Chapter 3. Spas & Health Centers by StateState Spa Regulations
United States Spa Websites
Alabama Spas & Health Centers
Alaska Spas & Health Centers
Arizona Spas & Health Centers
Arkansas Spas & Health Centers
California Spas & Health Centers
Colorado Spas & Health Centers
Connecticut Spas & Health Centers
Delaware Spas & Health Centers
District of Columbia Spas & Health Centers
Florida Spas & Health Centers
Georgia Spas & Health Centers
Hawaii Spas & Health Centers
Idaho Spas & Health Centers
Illinois Spas & Health Centers
Indiana Spas & Health Centers
Iowa Spas & Health Centers
Kansas Spas & Health Centers
Kentucky Spas & Health Centers
Louisiana Spas & Health Centers
Maine Spas & Health Centers
Maryland Spas & Health Centers
Massachusetts Spas & Health Centers
Michigan Spas & Health Centers
Minnesota Spas & Health Centers
Mississippi Spas & Health Centers
Missouri Spas & Health Centers
Montana Spas & Health Centers
Nebraska Spas & Health Centers
Nevada Spas & Health Centers
Las Vegas Spas & Health Centers
New Hampshire Spas & Health Centers
New Jersey Spas & Health Centers
New Mexico Spas & Health Centers
New York Spas & Health Centers
North Carolina Spas & Health Centers
North Dakota Spas & Health Centers
Ohio Spas & Health Centers
Oklahoma Spas & Health Centers
Oregon Spas & Health Centers
Pennsylvania Spas & Health Centers
Rhode Island Spas & Health Centers
South Carolina Spas & Health Centers
South Dakota Spas & Health Centers
Tennessee Spas & Health Centers
Texas Spas & Health Centers
Utah Spas & Health Centers
Vermont Spas & Health Centers
Virginia Spas & Health Centers
Washington Spas & Health Centers
West Virginia Spas & Health Centers
Wisconsin Spas & Health Centers
Wyoming Spas & Health Centers
Chapter 4. Health Spas Around the WorldSpa Lists Worldwide
Spas Worldwide
Chapter 5. European SpasEuropean Spas
Andorra Spas
Austria Spas
Bulgaria Spas
Croatia Spas
Cypress Spas
Czech Republic Spas
Finland Spas
France Spas
Germany Spas
Greece Spas
Hungary Spas
Italy Spas
Luxembourg Spas
Monaco/ Monte Carlo Spas
Portugal Spas
Russia Spas
Slovenia Spas
Spain Spas
Sweden Spas
Switzerland Spas
Chapter 6. Health Spas in Some CountriesCanadian Spas
Mexico Spas
Australia Spas
British Spas
Ireland Spas
Scotland Spas
South Africa Spas
Wales Spas
Chapter 7. Spa TopicsHot Springs Areas
Canadian Hot Springs
Men's Spas
Spas for Couples
Chapter 8. Country Stay InfoDude Rancher's Assn.
Dude Ranch List Websites
Specific Dude Ranches
Farm Holiday/ Farmstay Vacations/ Agri-Tourism
Chapter 9. Fitness Spas/ Fitness VacationAvoid Vacation Weight Gain
Active/ Fitness Vacation Websites
Lists of Fitness Spas & Health Centers
Specific Fitness Spas & Health Centers
Seventh Day Adventist Health Centers
Chapter 10. Weight Loss PlacesWeight Loss Places Lists
Weight Loss Spas & Centers
Weight Loss Clinics Info
British Weight Loss
Volume 6. Body Art; Tattoos, Piercing, etc. Chapter 1. Body Art/ Body ModificationBody Modification in General
Tattoo Websites/ Body Art Websites
Body Painting Info
Bodypaint Fetish Info
Henna Tattoo Info
Temporary Tattoos For Sale
Tattoo Removal Info
Chapter 2. Piercing BasicsBody Modification, Piercing
Sex Piercings/ Piercings in Erotic Zones
Body Jewelry Websites
Piercing Websites
Chapter 3. Genital Body Art InfoPenis Piercing/ Penis Tattoos
Penis Jewelry Info
Female Genital Piercing/ Female Genital Tattoos
What is true feminine beauty? I feel that I know it when I see it. Many women are blessed with natural beauty which has two components as far as I'm concerned:
1.) The face.
2.) The body.
In the face, some women have striking looks but if they don't have beautiful souls it reverberates there. Your resting expression indicates the type of person you are. Over time, this expression becomes your permanent face which is why I can tell who looks happy in a relaxed way versus the girls with anger, sadness or a beef with the world written on their faces. They have scowls on them.
Look at yourself in the mirror with no expression on your face. You can see how other people see you.
If you want outer beauty, you have to take care of yourself physically and mentally. Aging is the curse for women. Beauty is a large measure of a women's worth in society so you're gonna lose your outer beauty as you age.
I've known a few over-50 girls that I would say I was physically attracted to but you have to live in the real world, know what's goin' on and focus on living the best life you can with what you got.
That's what I wrote all my other books for, to help you take care yourself because you can't rely on anyone else, especially after 40. There's a quote I read that said a woman needs a good retirement plan after 40. Chances are your parents have passed on, you can't rely on men simply by the law of human nature.
Every married man goes through a midlife crisis. I've known seemingly honorable men who divorced their first wives out of the blue just because they met a young girl who was interested in them, probably because they had some money and offered a more secure lifestyle than a younger guy could.
Beauty to me is not skin deep. I look for someone with a beautiful soul that shows in the face, that glow of inner beauty. For vain, beautiful girls, it's all about them.
It doesn't matter what I say, the beauty industry has already got its hooks into you. How can it not? When I watch TV, a good percentage of the commercials are geared for women's beauty; hair coloring, beautiful hair, cosmetics, jewelry and trendy clothes.
And how about all them makeover type shows? Makeovers don't do anything to change a person's soul. True beauty is being the person you were born to be with abandon. That's what my free spirit books are about.
I've written articles about how coloring your hair tells the world you're in disharmony with yourself for doing something that fake to try to enhance your look when all it does is make you look like trailer trash. I've said we could easily solve the world's hunger problem by using the money we spend on hair color to feed poor kids but every night I still see those hair coloring commercials and think we live in such a lost society.
Beauty to me is health, wholeness, naturally good looks and a warm heart. I'm a guy, I go with what I got. I measure myself by what I do not what I look like. You have to think like this, especially as you get older. You might as well do it now.
Sure it's great to try to look good but there's that line of looking good as a result of the person you are by how you live and looking great because you spend an hour a day putting make-up on.
Have some balance in your life. If you're looking for a guy, guys know when you've crossed the line from natural beauty to vanity. Many make allowances for a girl who is kinda young because she's just trying to learn where she fits in out in the world but if I see a 32 year old dressed to the nines, full of make-up and jewelry, I got her pegged right away, somebody too focussed on her outer look. I don't wanna deal with her. It shows you're too self-centered and superficial.
Chapter 1. Outer Look & Inner Beauty
Outer Look & Inner Beauty 1
All that is in the heart is written in the face.
African Proverb
The most lucrative commodity is a woman's insecurity.
Alexis O'Hara, poetry slammer
I feel pretty.
Maria in Westside Story
I'm tired of all this nonsense about beauty being only skin deep. That's deep enough. What do you want, an adorable pancreas?
Jean Kerr, The Snake Has All the Lines, 1958
I want the women to be modest and sensible about their clothes and to dress properly; not with fancy hair styles or with golden ornaments or pearls or expensive dresses but with good deeds...
1 Timothy 2: 9
Outer beauty is a certification of health which means good genes to create babies.
In the 1940s movie Flesh & Fantasy, the old wizard gives the girl a mask at Mardi-Gras that will make her look outwardly beautiful but he warns her that love is not concerned with outer look. It's about two things:
1.) To give without expecting anything back.
2.) To create faith and support in another person.
Once she helps the guy she likes see that he is better served using his education as a lawyer rather than shipping out to sea, he falls in love with her on the inside, says he doesn't care what she looks like on the outside but when she takes the mask off, he says she's beautiful anyway.
A guy conducts a workshop where he takes photographs of mostly naked women then gives them a 24 by 36 inch poster of it whereupon they're spozed to write comments on it about what they feel about their bodies. Most of the women think negatively about themselves, namely they're too fat and their breasts are too small.
Hardly anyone is happy with themselves. Is this due to a neurotic society that has brainwashed us to chase unrealistic images of ourselves in the mistaken belief that if we ever get there, we will be happy?
With or without outer beauty, the truth is that your consciousness/ soul doesn't change much. You have the exact same soul regardless.
The formal literature in psychology and conventional wisdom asserts that outer physical beauty equals goodness, warmth and love even though in real life, plenty of people with good looks are arrogant, self-centered elitists who think they're better than everybody else.
It's true that good looks will get you into relationships with desirable people and get you breaks out in the world but everybody's physical beauty fades at some point in life, usually by 40.
A lot of pretty people can't sustain relationships because they don't have the modesty that makes them truly beautiful.
True beauty comes from within. The modern day fashion, plastic surgery and cosmetics industries make billions of dollars promoting outer beauty but it's not about make-up or the clothes you wear. It's about the joy and goodness in your heart. Never forget the statement from the Bible's Book of Proverbs, beautiful heart makes a joyful face.
You have to be happy with yourself regardless of whether your body and facial look are great or not. That's the key to happiness, love your inner self regardless of outer body but your inner self will show in your outer body. It can either make it look nice or angry, like a permanent scowl on your face which many people have.
Everybody turns into a prune as they age. All women over 40 simply can't compete with the fresh beauty of young girls so why try. Accept yourself for you are at any age in your life.
Outer Look & Inner Beauty 2
It will not be necessary for you to say a word because they will see how pure and reverent your conduct is. You should not use outward aids to make yourselves beautiful, such as the way you fix your hair or the jewelry you put on or the dresses you wear. Instead, your beauty should consist of your true inner self, the ageless beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit which is of the greatest value in God's sight.
1 Peter 3:1-4
It gives a young girl a false notion of beauty, not to mention anatomy. If a real woman was built like that, she'd fall flat on her face.
The Female Body by Margaret Atwood, talking about Barbie, the doll
You are not your looks but does the rest of the world know that?
Of all the things that you wear, your expression is the most important.
Your biography will become your biology.
Poise is being at ease with yourself. Outer look has everything to do with inner beauty.
Outer look is based on the face and body which tell us immediately how primally inspired and healthy you are about life. That's our entire judgment system right there. We read people based on how much youthful spark or lack of it they have to them.
Youth and beauty comprise one period of life where you have the grace of flawless vitality, natural good looks and vigor regardless of how much you might abuse yourself but it passes all too quickly then you either go off into chubby midlife mundanity and oblivion or figure out how to keep that youthful spark which is what my book A Free Spirit's Search For Enlightenment is about.
It's not facial beauty per se nor the look of the body per se, it's how sparkly you are about life. Granted some young girls have stunning facial beauty but this alone can't sustain you if you don't stay physically active and inspired about life as you age.
You will eventually wear your life on your face and body. If you've had a sad life, by the time you're 40 the glum expression will be imprinted there. If you stay happy, your face can look sparkly at 80.
America is obsessed with looks, just watch the TV commercials sometimes especially the one where the girl says I'm worth it or the one where that supposed celebrity gives a phony pout to the camera, playing with her hair like some frivolous airhead with nothing better to do than obsess over her looks saying "it changes everything" implying that the use of some hair product that rhymes with Canteen to "get rid of frizzies" will transform her life.
I've seen hundreds of girls who've dieted themselves thin with pills, colored their hair, poured the make-up on, wore the latest styles and even got cosmetic boobs yet I still didn't get that sense of true beauty about them because they didn't have the true quality of beauty as a rare and unique gemstone. Beauty comes from within from the heart.
The body is not distinct from the soul. The body is the expression of the soul. How you feel inside is how your body feels and vice versa. If you want to be an alive, vibrant, sexual human being, you must become aware of your body, take care of it through diet, rest and exercise then use it as an instrument of your freedom and sexuality not to mention that you will be a healthier and happier person overall.
The human organism is a unitary whole. You can't have good sex or be a good lover if you're missing a piece of the puzzle. In order to be desirable sexually and to be a good lover, you must have a decent body that you're in control of. It's that simple.
Be yourself. Don't wear too much make-up. Ralph Nader wrote a book about the toxic effects of make-up and I watched a preacher at 3abn.org (the Baptist Network) quote from the Bible saying that vanity a la make-up is wrong.
If you're a truly beautiful person who cares enough about life to take care of yourself, it will show. You don't have to do frivolous, stupid things in the name of vanity like live for those impostors called fashion and make-up.
They've got nothing to do with the real you. If some bubbleheaded idiot approaches you just because of the clothes and/ or make-up you're wearing, then he's a superficial idiot too just like you. Maybe you were meant for each other.
Do not divorce your body from your mind. Feel it, experience it, go with the flow. Learn to relax, breathe easily, exercise, move, walk, dance, swim, do Tai chi, etc., develop good posture, meditate, use the five senses and savor the feelings, massage yourself, introspect, center yourself, love your body then use all these insights to become a better lover with your partner.
Gaze at each other, talk about your bodies then massage each other. Dancing to music is one of the greatest sensous, physical activities around.
A good book about women, true womanhood and cultural brainwash is A Woman's Worth by Marianne Williamson, 1993 even though I think she's a bit of a hypocrite for trying to come off like a trendy yuppie when I saw her on some TV show.
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A Girl's Appearance/ The Vanity Business
It's better to be looked over than to be overlooked.
It is only shallow people who do not judge by appearances. The true mystery of the world is the visible, not the invisible.
Oscar Wilde
Women are massively brainwashed to focus on their appearance to the point of excess which violates three principles of ladyhood:
1.) A true woman of substance is modest and concerned with doing worthwhile things either for herself, for her family or for the world. She is not wasting her life buying different clothes, trying them on, coloring her hair, painting her nails and putting make-up on.
2.) True beauty emenates out from within a person. In the Book of Proverbs in the Bible, they say a beautiful heart makes a joyful face. You can't fake a truly joyful face, not even with all the cosmetics and clothing in the world. You either have that quality in your soul or you don't and it shows on the outside. People can sense the type of person you really are simply by looking at your face and your dress.
3.) Anyone who spends excessive time grooming and buying trendy clothes gives their true character away when you look at them. An excessive preoccupation with the way you look tells other people you're vain and vanity is a negative quality because it shows you're a self-centered narcissist who doesn't give a damn about anyone but yourself.
A truly noble person is thinking about the problems in the world and how they can help it. They are not thinking about culturing a certain frivolous look or image about themselves.
All vain people have an aura of superiority to them, a feeling that they are better than others and they are engaging in the frivolous pastime of looking good while there is so much need in the world. It reveals your true character, that you're not a good person. You're a brainwashed, self-centered ass who will age and look ugly then all the clothes and make-up in the world will not help your cold heart look any warmer.
If you're an active, inspired person releasing your natural energy in trying to live a good life for yourself, you will look good naturally without having to try to create a trendy aura about yourself. All enlightened people can tell who's naturally inspired, just being themselves and who's a fake, frivolous person trying to look good to get some ego boost from others.
The whole thing about being enlightened and attracting the right kind of guy or girl is that you don't do anything to attract external attention to yourself by your clothes and make-up. You don't have to. You're fine as is. You feel good inside. You don't have to impress other people with your look. The right people will recognize your true beauty when they see you for the first time.
It's got nothing to do with clothes and cosmetics. It's the natural joie d'vivre a person has written across their face and body by the way they live. That's the only beauty that registers to people like me.
Every night, I watch the documentary channels and the independent movie channels on TV so I'm thinking to myself that the demographic target audience for these networks must be for people like me, over 40 year old farts who've seen it all and don't like glitter and flash. We want to see something original, great and inspired yet they still have the stupid hair coloring commercials even on these networks.
It just goes to show how pervasive the brainwashing effect is where girls are portrayed as these extremely frivolous people who have got nothing better to do than color their hair then they imply that coloring your hair or using a certain shampoo will magically change your life.
You'll all of a sudden feel very glamorous, guys will notice you and you'll meet the prince of your dreams. The TV commercials are so obviously fake, made at such a cheesy, primitive level that I wonder how is any sane girl gonna watch that and be convinced by it but apparently millions do. The commercials must work because they never end.
Yes, girls are brainwashed to aspire to be beautiful and trendy. There's nothing wrong with a girl trying to be beautiful but there's a point of obsession and overdoing it to the extent that she's all about her outer look. She's not thinking deep thoughts about all the problems in the world and trying to do something about in her own way.
She lives in this phony glamorous world created by the media that guys like me can't stand because I believe it's part of the destruction of good quality people in our society.
When a girl gets into this mindset, I don't wanna have anything to do with her. I like people of substance who get beyond this phony, frivolous world and I don't like these people who think there's really such a thing as fashion beyond a massive delusion of trendiness.
Advertising has created a silent competition among women as to who's the most beautiful and trendiest in the room. It has ruined the helping sisterhood that should exist among women.
Instead of parading around trying to look like proud peacocks, women should be more friendly to each other and less concerned with being all that, looking like some model sashaying down a runway.
A woman uses her beauty to attract men and hopefully find a strong, wealthy husband in the bunch. Where many of them mess up is that they accept the definition of beauty corporate advertising has given them so they color their hair, cake the make-up on, splurge on expensive clothes and shoes but they don't realize that noble, worthy men see all this as a negative quality of vanity contrary to what the TV commercials say about how glamorous this stuff will make you look.
They can see past this into the soul of a girl because her true soul is written all over her face and her body and it's got nothing to do with how trendy the dress is that she's wearing.
If you're a girl either married or in a relationship, don't tell your husband how you think you're fat when you're not because it'll just make him mad that he's working so hard and there's so much real need in the world while you're so frivolous that all you can do is think about your imagined weight problem.
A billion people on the planet are starving and your problem is that you're trying to lose ten pounds. It doesn't make any sense. Is it any wonder why people like me turn our backs on the corporate pop culture entertainment culture?
Don't complain about how your face isn't pretty enough, how your legs are too fat or the fact that there are wrinkles on your face. Guys have to hustle out there in the real world. They don't want to hear about your imaginary problems about your looks.
If you knew how little people care about your looks unless they plan to have sex with you or marry you, you'd realize why the cult of outer beauty is a big sham-scam.
The Fine Line Between Dressing For Vanity & Dressing For Self-Respect
When I was in grade school, I realize now that I had an inner standard back then to dress cleanly, neatly and nice. I never wore jewellry or anything to make others pay attention to me based on dress but I was always dressed like the polite middle class kid.
When I went to college, I was exactly the same. I always wore neutral middle class type clothes. I was never grungy. I never wore t-shirts and sweatpants to school but I never wore trendy expensive stuff either.
You can look nice and neat without drawing attention to yourself based on your clothes. That's the line.
You can wear a comfortable pair of shoes or knee-high high-heeled boots.
People make judgments on you based on your dress.
The judgments I make are something like there's some kid starving in Africa and this girl who thinks she's hot is wearing $500 boots that are total pretense. Why would I ever want to befriend her even for the possibility of casual sex?
Physical Beauty 1
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
Before going to bed that night, I looked in the mirror above the bathroom sink and when I saw only my face staring back - and that it would always be this ordinary face - I began to cry. Such a sad ugly girl! I made high-pitched noises like a crazed animal, trying to scratch out the face in the mirror... The girl staring back at me was angry, powerful. This girl and I were the same. I had new thoughts, willful thoughts or rather thoughts filled with lots of won'ts. I won't let her change me, I promised myself. I won't be what I'm not.
Amy Tan, The Joy Luck Club
Many women will try almost anything to improve their looks such as paying outrageous prices for useless creams and gadgets, getting poisoned sometimes by the chemicals in beauty aids and live in pain just to look beautiful such as wear corsets, shoes too tight, high heels, etc., not to mention the time wasted trying to create a fatade of beauty or glamor when true beauty is in the essence/ aura of a person.
It is not affected either way by splashing chemicals on your face. A bit of make-up is ladylike. Too much is tawdry trailer trash.
Youth is the elixir the beauty products corporations try to sell to every woman over 28 and they make billions off it but there are four factors that nobody can change:
1.) The fact that aging is natural. To accept yourself as you naturally are is divine. To me, it's better than the vain, frivolous aging woman obsessed with your looks.
2.) It's not a manufactured youthful look per se that makes an aging woman look good, it's a youthful attitude to life, an inspired, fresh, free lifestyle, not chemicals and clothes.
3.) I personally feel I can usually tell when someone has a facelift, uses botox or has had other cosmetic surgeries done. It gives the face an artificial "tight" look.
4.) The easiest way to stay young is to sweat through hard physical effort at something for at least a few hours a day, almost everyday.
Don't be a fool. Don't believe all the stupid beauty claims out there.
There are no creams that can enhance bust size.
Some chemicals in beauty products are poisonous or at least hazardous to people allergic to them.
It's not about dress to impress. It's who you are on the inside that shows on the outside. All the fashions and cosmetics in the world won't do much for you either way. All that crap on TV about makeovers is just reminiscent of a lost society.
You don't change your consciousness or your soul by getting some make-up slapped on, a new dress and some assholes who think they're trendy who are supposedly your makeover coaches tellin' you to go girl.
I can generally read people by their face and body. It's not about the clothes they wear or how trendy they look. It's about the way they carry themselves, the look of joy and peace on their faces, the sparkle in their eye versus a generic, bland look, the look of health and self-respect or lack of it, their nobility and humility as opposed to immature, loud, in your face arrogance.
Way back when I was a stupid, brainwashed undergrad psychology student, we all had to do an independent study for our third year. I chose the beautiful is good phenomena, the tendency for people to think that good-looking people are morally better and superior to others in most things like intelligence, kindness, wealth, athletic ability, etc. when the truth is that good looking people can be just as evil as anyone and are not necessarily superior to others in anything.
Despite everything we say about it's the heart that counts, beautiful people are thought to be better leaders, better human beings and more special than other people.
Studies done where people's faces are flashed onto a screen and the brain reactions of people watching analyzed revealed that the more beautiful the person of the opposite sex (same sex if you're gay), the more your brain lights up and goes haywire.
The part that lights up most is the limbic system which is the primordial instinctive part of the brain we share with animals dedicated to cravings of pleasure like food, sex, recreational drugs, etc.
Out in the world of work, men can be as ugly and fat as they want and nobody cares as long as they do their jobs well but a woman has to be beautiful or at least pleasant to look at in order to be considered successful at life regardless of how powerful they are at work.
I know vrtually all women are brainwashed by physical beauty en masse because even though I'm a guy, I've scanned several hundred woman's magazines over the years and they're always about two things:
1.) Be beautiful in looks, enhance yourself any way you can.
2.) Be thin.
These two factors have created multi-billion dollar fashion, cosmetics and weight loss industries all designed to make women always feel deficient no matter how good they look so they can spend their money on frivolous things to try to enhance their look somehow to reach that standard pounded into them by TV commercials and frivolous magazines and if they're not there, they feel bad about themselves and neurotic about life, all except for one minor category of truly liberated women.
Some post-menopausal women but not all, only a small minority, accept themselves as is, know they ain't gonna be looked on as beauties anymore so it frees them to be who they really are without feeling self-conscious about their looks anymore.
The problem with the capitalist-corporate-pop culture game of getting women hooked on their looks in order to sell them product when it comes to attracting guys is that guys like pretty, thin girls with big boobs but they also like wholesome, healthy and real not the so-called trendy one with her high fashions, colored hair, too much make-up and her frivolous "I'm all that" attitude gleaned from the magazines.
This is where easily 90% of you are brainwashed to miss the boat as to what constitutes a true nice, noble lady. Some girls smoke cigarettes and take laxatives all in an effort to stay thin whereas anyone who knows anything about the medical industry knows that smoking is the worst thing you can do for your health and looks. It ages you faster causing premature wrinkles.
It's not all that crap they try to brainwash you with in frivolous women's magazines that attract men, it's a nice girl untouched and unphased by all of that because it's so rare.
When I look at a girl for the first time, I'm asking myself how much does she own herself as a free person being herself versus how much is she a product of her culture trying to look beautiful and fashionable with the trendy clothes, too much lipstick, the nosering, the colored hair, etc.
The magazines are paid for by the advertisers from the so-called beauty industry which is why just about all the articles are about beauty, they want you to spend your money and be a brainwashed clone but this is the big fallacy; these things turn guys off.
They like the look of sleazy. slutty, made-up girls trying to look trendy for sexual arousal but as far as love goes, most (or at least me) really aren't interested in the pop culture clone trying to be trendy and cool.
The deception of the corporate cosmetic industry is that they sell stupid, frivolous products to women they've brainwashed into thinking that these superficial things will make them more beautiful but they really just cheapen them.
The colored hair, the painted nails, the overdone eye make-up, the perm, the fake eyelashes, etc. look good for a porno movie set or a vamp in a music video trying to act like a pop star but as revelations of true, inner character, they're horrible to a guy like me who believes being natural, unpretensious and unassuming are high virtues, quite rare in the search for beautiful souls.
I presume you try to beautify yourself to attract men or at least to attract compliments and leering looks to build up your ego but the catch is that men are born with instincts wired into them that say I want to reproduce with the youngest, most wholesome healthiest (and sincere, honest and nice) females I can find.
Beauty is really just another word for health. A man is looking for a healthy sex partner. Her youthful beauty tells you she's healthy. It doesn't have anything to do with all that cosmetics crap out there, it's your youthful vitality that counts.
Artificial breasts will make you more attractive because men are particularly attracted to that curve but anything else won't really help you all that much.
Hair color makes you look cheap, painted nails are kinda frivolous, eye make-up makes you look sexy but it's a slutty type of sexy not a wholesome type.
If you want love or to be seen as beautiful by men and other women, you gotta live such that you radiate a healthy glow in your lifestyle and attitude towards life from the inner core of your being.
Facial beauty or ugliness is something you're born with. It's out of your control therefore it's neutral value-wise, neither good or bad yet we all know that beautiful people generally get preferential treatment except for the backlash where people do bad things to them because they're jealous.
If you got it and flaunt it, you're a fool because it's frivolous, skin deep and will fade in due time. If you're pretty but try to accomplish something of substance rather than just rely on your looks, you're living life the right way not trying to think you're superior because you're supposedly so beautiful.
The one thing you can do to change your face other than cosmetic surgery is to exercise and eat the right foods such that it's lean and chiselled and you have hollowed in cheeks such that your cheekbones stick out. This is a universal signal of beauty because it signifies you're healthy unlike the chubby puffy faces we see on most people in our society who rarely exert themselves intensely physically despite the fact that there are thousands of gyms and exercise machines around.
It's trendy to say you're into physical activity but how many people live it as part of an inspired lifestyle rather than just use it as an unpleasant means to an end.
Beauty can attract people to you if you've got a nice face and body when you're young but once you pass about 35, your looks go somewhat so if you've got a bitchy, uppity personality, don't expect your outer beauty to get you what you want anymore. Men will simply go after the younger ones.
Physical Beauty 2
Nature's pride, fresh and fair and unacquainted with the miracle of physical love. Her beauty was not made of shapes and forms, but shined from within like the stars.
Don Juan DeMarco
I'm of the belief that inner beauty creates outer beauty, you have to be beautiful on the inside to be truly beautiful on the outside. If you have outer beauty without inner beauty, you give off a phony, empty kind of vibe which equals nothing because a pretty face and a nice body without a feeling of niceness or warmth is useless which is why all those bleach blond cosmetic tit chicks do nothing for me emotionally except to want to have empty sex with them.
I feel no inherent warmth or niceness coming from them so I'm not attracted to them as people I like for being who they are. In fact, wheever I see rootsshowing through, the words phony, superficial and brainwashed immediately enter my mind.
I've watched obsessive women on talk shows say they wouldn't even put the garbage out without make-up on and a pregnant one who put her make-up on before she went to bed every night in case she went into labor and went to the hospital.
You've all been brainwashed by frivolous women's magazines and cosmetics companies who want you to buy, buy, buy, never satisfied with your alleged beauty when the facts are that true beauty comes from within and the people out there that you think are looking at you and concerning themselves with how beautiful or ugly you are really aren't.
They're more worried about how they look rather than how you look so we got a society full of a bunch of self-centered women and some men walking around, each in a world of their own creation, worrying about how they look with nobody giving too much of a damn about how anyone else looks but themselves.
This is where the culture of vanity perpetuated by the illusion of media glamour and the cosmetic commercials has brought us.
In my book A Free Spirit's Search For Enlightenment, I defined one of the factors of the anatomy of the soul as the body as the temple of the soul.
I'm not talking about these vain over the top girls you see on trashy talk shows flashing their cosmetics boobs, I'm talking about taking care of yourself physically by not overeating, getting some exercise and living a balanced life. The beauty and reverence you hold for life is reflected in your body.
As far as facial beauty goes, your soul radiates through your face. You may have been born with good looks but your biography will become your biology meaning the way you live your life will eventually become your face.
You will have a few years of grace during youth but I've seen hundreds of once beautiful girls who got fat, wrinkled or just developed permanent scowls on their faces from a life not well lived.
I looked at photographs of some of them from ten or so years ago and the way they look now, you'd never know they were once stunning beauties.
The way you live your life, the way you feel all the time forms a permanent imprint on your face. It's very easy to tell the truly happy people from the phony vain ones. Happiness is beauty, it's that simple.
It's in the eyes. I've seen older women with beautiful eyes which made their faces beautiful. I've seen people with faces not considered beautiful who looked beautiful to me because they had a presence of soul in their eyes and a happy glow in their faces.
I don't buy into that phony cult of celebrity thing with the entertainment industry and those stupid celebrity gossip magazines. That's all crap. Truly beautiful people don't go around trying to flaunt it, posing as if they actually have the vanity to presume to be one of the 50 or so most beautiful people in the world according to some stupid magazine while people in Africa are worrying about where their next meal is coming from and kids are starving to death today yet we're obsessed with these meaningless things while we're perfectly aware all this stuff is goin' on. No wonder we live in a lost society out of balance with the karma of the world.
In my opinion, we have a phony cult of beauty created by the entertainment industry, gossip columnists, tabloid TV shows, tabloid newspapers, cosmetic commercials and frivolous women's magazines who use so-called celebrities and supermodels as fodder in this illusion they put forth about some cool, glamorous in-crowd of beautiful people out there having a great old time while the rest of us pleebes get to watch in envy, feeling inferior because we weren't blessed with superior genes so we're not there, part of it.
If you buy into this game, you're the idiot for allowing yourself to be manipulated like this. I have my own standards of beauty and it doesn't come close to all those bleach blonds with their tired roots showing through, their phony smiles and their cosmetic tits or anybody else trying to act frivolously fashionable.
I'm a real human being. I like real people without any frivolous pretensions to them whatsoever. If you pierce your tongue, you're sending a message to me that you're such a brainwashed lost soul that you had to go out and mutilate a basic part of your anatomy to give off the impression to others that you're a cool, adventurous human being but to enlightened minds, you're just giving off the impression that you're stupid and lost, conforming to the current definition of cool.
Be a noble person within yourself by your own standard. Answer to yourself only. Don't play anybody else's game, particularly don't allow yourself to be miserable by trying to fit into a standard that's not the real you.
Physical beauty will fade in all women so if you've got nothing inside, you will have nothing left once your age starts to show. Try to look nice but don't dwell on it. Focus on what you do not on how you look.
Physical Beauty 3
Beauty starts from the inside.
Trendy on the outside, empty on the inside.
There are no ugly women, only lazy ones.
Helena Rubenstein, My Life for Beauty, 1966
Is it too much to ask that women be spared the daily struggle for superhuman beauty in order to offer it to the caresses of a subhumanly ugly mate?
Germaine Greer, The Female Eunuch, 1970
I've never met a woman who thought she was beautiful and I've met a lot of women.
Gay hairstylist
Beauty is portrayed as both a source of grace/ feminine charm and a source of sexuality where women are perceived as sex objects.
Feminine beauty is a double edged sword for women both as a source of power over men and as a source of neurotic anxiety. If you don't have it, that's a double strike against you. Why do you think the cosmetic and clothing industries are so lucrative?
One of the most popular types of books are the weight loss books which are all a sham because weight loss is a matter of three factors and a bit of common sense;
Eat less;
Exercise more.
Love life more than you love food.
We're bombarded at one end to be nice people on the inside yet the TV culture focusses totally on the frivolous, super thin, highly made-up girl as the ideal leaving many women to get miserable when they gain a few pounds or hit their mid-thirties. What's a gal to do?
I live for the spirit that I feel within me. Food is functional. You have to develop that kind of attitude about food and get away from using it to fill the emptinesss you feel in other parts of your life.
Many women also use other addictions to compensate for the emotional emptiness in their lives like booze, shopping, valium, supermom, codependence, diet pills, compulsive exercise, drugs, bingo and anorexia/ bulimia.
Eating should be an act of will. You decide to eat less so you eat less and don't develop a deep psychological neurosis about it. It's a fact, people respect fat people less. You have to make firm decisions and commit to them. In the final analysis, you have the power of choice.
Accept your body, accept your beauty. Choose personal power. Black women accept their bodies more than white women. Get a clue, accept your body and strive to be a more energetic, vivacious person. Let your inner light shine through. It will make a lot more impact than your obsession with your weight.
Within the mainstream society at large, physical beauty is defined as an attractive face and a well proportioned slim body. It's a universal source of invisible power wherever you go because it represents an esthetic; a thing of beauty, rarity, coolness, niceness, goodness and innocence.
Something about physical beauty transcends normal mundanity. We seem to equate it with a higher quality of life, that people who are physically beautiful are somehow living happier lives, that they're somehow one step above the rest of humanity.
Everybody generally evaluates everybody else on physical look, men and women alike. Physical beauty to me is a glow, a spring in your step, a nice gentle face and a nice body not too skinny or too fat.
We automatically treat beautiful people better than we treat others all the way from babyhood on through to old age. We smile at them more, like them more, give them breaks, freebies, jobs, etc. We befriend them more and want to be around them but this is the fallacy.
You can be born with great looks and a good body but beauty is only skin deep. It really is what's inside that counts because over time, what's inside will shape your body and face, i.e., your biography will become your biology.
Natural beauty alone might sustain you until about 35 if you're a light eater but unless you actively exercise, eat right and live a happy life, the wear and tear of life will destroy your youthful looks.
In my observations of people, I've noticed that we as a race generally treat attractive people better but not really that much because it's a money-business oriented world where function is king, what can I do for you, what can you do for me.
Who really cares about someone sitting pretty doing nothing unless you can get something out of them like sex, love or to be seen with this beautiful person to enhance your popularity rating.
Beautiful women make porno movies, so what. Ain't nobody out there that dazzling that I'm going to come crawling on my knees to anyone. I personally don't care what you look like unless I plan to have sex with you or marry you.
To me, a soul is a soul. They're all equal despite the outer wrapping. If we have a meeting of the minds in whatever it is we're doing, I don't care how ugly or pretty you are. I know that all people have the same basic emotions so ugly or pretty, you're just another human soul to me.
Show me something original from your soul and I will respect you way more than I give a damn about all that dye in your hair and that make-up on your face.
Men are vain to a limited extent, recognize handsome looks in other men and either respect it or are jealous of it but women take the cake because they're judged almost exclusively on physical beauty all their lives.
It doesn't matter if they're smart, wealthy, creative, original or funny. The outside world meaning men and what I've gathered about the collective soul of women, both judge women by looks and women play a silent game with each other based on who's the prettiest and slimmest in the room.
This invisible standard is devastating to many women because it puts the feminine physical ideal into one mold and if you don't fit it, you're somehow uncool, not quite with it, not as popular as the others.
It's a double edged sword. There's nothing uglier than someone with outer beauty being a high and mighty, vain and empty bitch. A lot of women play that game and get what they want from dumb guys but smart guys know an ice queen or a phony bitch when they see one.
If you were blessed with physical beauty, sure look nice and take care of yourself but don't flaunt it and think you're better than everybody else. Do something useful and functional with your life.
Don't just sit there, get a boob job and try to make it on that alone. It's so useless, phony and empty.
Remember the line in Kipling's poem... nor look too good or talk too wise. If you look good and feel good inside, good for you.
You don't have to announce it to the world by wearing excessively tight, skimpy or otherwise overly extravagant clothes, caked over with too much make-up, sashaying around like some dumb vamp out of a frivolous woman's magazine or one of them stupid videos by them phony manufactured pop divas out there.
Men like nice looking girls but not phony vamps. As a man, I can't understand the cultural over-obsession women have with what they wear and how they look.
I can spot a true beauty right off and it ain't got nothing to do with make-up or the clothes you wear. I was attracted to one of my soulmates while she was wearing a plain supermarket frock because it was something beautiful about her as a person that I could immediately sense, not anything else.
Men are functional, clothes are functional. As long as we look alright, that's as far as it goes. Any guy who reads GQ magazine or has a fair-sized wardrobe has violated the true essence of manhood, to do something worthy with your life not sit around looking pretty.
I personally can't stand girls that are purposely trying to be frivolously fashionable. It tells me they're out of touch phonies who don't know much about life in the real world.
Some beautiful women say they're too beautiful to get asked out because guys are intimidated by them. Based on watching dating shows, I've concluded that most women have a higher opinion of their beauty and charm to men than they actually have in the objective sense.
After the dates, many said they were above his class, out of his league so to speak. This is snobbery, a deluded sense that you're so beautiful that you can control guys and they're dying to get close to you.
Most guys live in the real world. They will be nice to you but know there's always another bus around the corner with a whole bus full of new girls trying to look beautiful so if you think you're extra-special, you'd better think again because people in general hate that vibe.
I've known beautiful girls with nice faces who were approachable because they didn't have any pretense about themselves. They were just being who they are.
Physical beauty is beautiful if it's paired with a nice soul not a phony, vain, frivolous one hooked on her self-perception of being a dazzling beauty.
As I already said, at my age, no one female is that special to me anymore. There are nice ones around but beauty's a dime a dozen, it's all interchangeable, people are basically generic, all attractive bodies are equal, any attractive one will do so I and I hope most people my age who I presume are mature are not affected by a person's looks much either way.
I like people who ignore their looks, either good or bad. It's just not much of an issue. I can't stand people who tie their egos up in their looks to the point of absurdity like eating disorders, overrated trendy clothes, etc.
The Arts & Entertainment Network, aetv.com, have a documentary called Beauty in a Jar which they sell in video format.
Chapter 2. The Essence of Beauty
Beauty in the Bible
The Bible wants women and men to be healthy, wholesome, modest and spiritual. There is more information in the Christian Women section and the Modesty: A Lost Virtue section but for now, read this over as food for thought.
It never ceases to amaze me how some of these hyprocrite so-called pop stars calling themselves Christian parade around in their trendy clothes, trying to act alluring. A true Christian is modest, that's all there is to it. They don't seek out attention from their physical look.
Watch any Christian TV show. See how many of the women there color their hair. That's kinda stupid, isn't it? They're denying the hair color God gave them to waste money on some gunk while some kid will die tonight because he doesn't have a dollars worth of food then people wonder why I have contempt for the hypocrisy of fake Christians.
God hates pride and the high look.
Proverbs 21:4
The Lord sees not as man sees; for man looks on the outward appearance, the Lord looks on the heart.
1 Samuel 16:7
Do not adorn yourselves outwardly by arranging your hair, or by wearing gold, or by putting on clothing. Rather, let your adornment be the inner man of the heart, which never decays, the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is of much value in the sight of God. Peter 3:3-4
Him that has a high look and a proud heart will not endure.
Psalms 101:5
As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout, so is a
beautiful woman who is without discretion. Proverbs 11:22
Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a
woman that fears the Lord, she shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30
Who is a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubles. The heart of her husband safely trusts in her so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax and works willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants' ships; she brings food from afar. She rises while it's dark and gives meat to her household and a portion to her maidens. She looks at a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands, she plants a vineyard. She girdeth her loins with strength and strengthens her arms. She sees to it that her merchandise is good; her candle stays bright by night. She lays her hands to the spindle and her hands hold the distaff. She stretches out her hand to the poor; yes, she reaches forth her hands to the needy.
She's not afraid of the snow for her household; for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She makes herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders in the land. She makes fine linen and sells it; and delivers girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honor are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looks well to the ways of her household and doesn't eat in the bread of idleness. Her children arise up and call her blessed; her husband also and he praises her. Many daughters have done virtuously; but you excellest them all. Favor is deceitful and beauty is vain but a woman that fears the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Proverbs 31:10-31
Unto the pure all things are pure.
Titus 1:15
Let it not be that outward adorning of arranging
the hair, or of wearing of gold, or of putting on
clothing. But let it be that the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, the
ornament of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. 1Peter 3:3-4
The Mechanics of Beauty
At 50, everyone has the face he deserves.
George Orwell, Notebook, April, 1949
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Everybody has their own vision of what a dream person is and it varies wildly. I've been turned on by girls other guys aren't particularly interested in and guys have pointed out girls to me that turned them on that did nothing for me.
It's the way it is. We're wired with a vision of beauty back around childhood which is usually someone similar to our opposite sex parent.
For what's it worth, a recent poll said that the number one factor for men about women's look was the breasts.
Being a man, I can attest to the fact that I value a woman's beauty; her facial beauty, her body and an undefineable feeling of inner beauty that I must sense immediately if I'm to be attracted to her.
For the women, the number one feature of men was the eyes. Most of the attractive features were centered around the face like hair, small nose, big eyes, etc. Body parts rated high for the men like the butt, legs, etc. but not so for the women. Biceps only got 6% as the most important feature for women.
The most basic facets of women looking good to men are:
Healthy appearance.
The clean wholesome look.
Healthy skin.
Glossy hair (eat protein).
Hair long or medium long, either straight or mildly curly not frizzy like you stuck your finger into a light bulb socket.
Breasts average size to large.
Tight ass, tight legs.
Tanned face, the blush complexion.
Good grooming.
Light scent of perfume or cologne.
White teeth.
Nice clothes not fashionably frivolous though. Dress appropriately for the occasion.
Moderate amount of jewelry.
Moderate amount of make-up.
Smooth, soft hands.
Manicured nails.
Pedicured toes.
High heels.
Nice underwear.
Everybody wants somebody healthy looking with good skin and no body fat. It's the universal constant around the world. Biologists say it goes back to primitive days when men and women alike searched for mates that would produce healthy offspring.
According to some psychologists, attractiveness in both sexes equates to symmetry in the face and a big head with big eyes, small ears, clear complexion, minimal amount of wrinkles and an oval face.
According to psychologist Dr. Michael Cunningham at the University of Louisville who did studies by showing people photos and asking them to rate the people in them on an attractiveness scale, there are two categories of features that attract men to women:
1.) Neonate features, features that make a girl look young and childish such that we feel protective towards her like large, widely spaced eyes, small noses and chins.
2.) Sexual maturity and responsive features like narrow cheeks, prominent cheekbones, arched eyebrows, happy smiles and dilated eye pupils.
The sum total according to his article in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology is "someone who is slightly young and helpless though sexually mature and friendly."
This is that vulnerability thing I talk about elsewhere which is why the modern liberated babe ain't exactly setting men's hearts on fire. She's too hard with that I'm in control attitude.
People with big heads and big eyes with visible cheekbones are considered attractive in every different society in the world. People with attractive, symmetric faces have sex more and cheat more than others, hence, healthier genes get passed on down.
Psychologists have categorized the following as youthful features;
a big face:
symmetry of the face:
big eyes:
high cheekbones;
rosy, tan complexion;
right sized nose;
clear skin.
These are the marks of beauty in every culture of the world. They showed babies pictures of people that were ranked on attractiveness and found that babies looked at the universally attractive ones longer.
Some facial proportions for facial beauty are:
The ideal mouth is half the width of the face at mouth level.
The eyes are 1/14th the height of the face and 3/10th the width of the face at eye level.
The pupils are 1/14th the distance between the cheekbones.
The chin is 1/5th the length of the face.
The distance from the center of the eye to the bottom of the eyebrow is 1/10th the height of the face.
The total area of the nose should be no more than 5% of the total area of the face.
Psychologists went around to a bunch of different cultures in the world and showed them pictures of both men and women. The universal constant for men perceiving a woman to be healthy and fertile was what they called a 0.70 waist to hip ratio which means that the waist is 0.70 the size of the hips.
All men are turned on by this measurement. For women, it's about.85,.90 waist to buttock ratio in men so the point is that we seem to have some prewired scope within ourselves that can detect what's fertile/ attractive in the opposite sex.
Even though men's preferences to the size of women (thin to fat) change with the times, the 0.70 waist-to-hip ratio remains constant regardless of the overall size they prefer.
According to studies, women seem to generally prefer a feminine face in a man because it's perceived as more friendly except during ovulation where they want a masculine looking man to seed them to pass of good genes.
Physical beauty is a person's way of advertising that he or she is virile and ready to create babies so it's part of the mating game to try to be beautiful to attract an appropriate mate.
A part of beauty is health. A man is attracted to a lady who takes care of herself. If you smoke because you think it helps keep your weight down, get strong, quit and take up a real healthy lifestyle.
In many psychological studies, it was proven time and time again that physically beautiful people are considered morally superior, more talented and friendlier than others and often get the breaks in life although they get the backlash of jealousy and scorn to go along with it and beauty fades after 40 so it's not a lifelong thing.
In conclusion, men are definitely attracted to physical beauty, women are more attracted to the inner soul of the guy and the size of his wallet although I don't shortchange men. They're not stupid. They want inner beauty just like women do.
Blond, light, fair hair is associated with youth which could be why men are more attracted to blonds than girls with other hair colors.
Check out #613.71 and #615.82 at the library for books about body awareness and sensuality. Books about beauty, cosmetics, skincare, etc., are at #646.70-75 at the library. There are even books for men at #646.75. General fitness books are at #611-613. For books about the psychology of beauty, try #305.42 or BF201.4 at the library, in particular The Power of Beauty by Nancy Friday.
True Beauty is Love of Life
True beauty means only one thing; someone who has taken the genetic seed they were born with to strive to be as strong, free, natural, pure and loving as they can be without pretense, doing it because that's what they feel within that they must be. Everything else is pretense, bull, vanity or meaningless.
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